Better Sex: Using Pornography to Enhance the Sexual Experience

Pornography gets a bad rap, and not without some justification. Yet despite problems with it, pornography in many different forms continues to be enjoyed by men (and women). Since frequent ejaculation is a component of penis health, the masturbatory aid can be seen as conducive to a healthy activity. But it’s not just for solo use; pornography is often used as a way to stimulate better sex for a couple.

It’s not always visual.

When people think of pornography, X-rated videos and pictures are what tend to come to mind. Yet pornography doesn’t have to be relegated strictly to the visual realm. Some couples may find that audio-based porn may be more up their alley.

For example, simply “talking dirty” may stimulate sexual interest in a new way. If a couple tends to use technical terms when referring to their organs or their actions, they may respond positively to getting “down and dirty” with their language during sex.

Role-playing is another option. A couple decides on a sex-based scenario and takes on the guise of characters in that scenario. For example, a man may play a policeman pulling over a woman for speeding. The woman explains the sexual favors she would do to get out of receiving a ticket, and the couple moves forward from there.

Or some couples may simply enjoy having sex while listening to (but not watching) an adult video. The sounds of other couples moaning and groaning may stimulate more than one’s audio senses.

But visual can be good.

Of course, “traditional” pornography is also a worthy option. Assuming that both partners are interested in exploring this together, it still helps to discuss a few things in advance:

- Comfort level. Are both partners equally interested, or is one “pushing” the other? There’s not necessarily anything wrong with asking about it, but partners need to be sensitive and realize that some people simply may not be receptive.

- Genre. A man may be intensely into a pornographic video in which one guy is serviced by a bevy of beautiful women. His mate may also be into this – but then again, she very well may not. It’s a good idea to determine in advance what areas of pornography a couple wants to explore; in general, it’s usually best to start with fairly “straightforward” porn.

- Share. Couples should establish that sharing their thoughts about the porn – whether during or after the viewing – is acceptable and can lead to better sex. For example, a woman may want to point out that the position a couple is using onscreen might be a lot of fun, or a man may want to say that the way the actress is stroking the actor’s penis is exactly the way he likes to be fondled. It’s also okay to continue this conversation when the couple has moved on to engaging in sex themselves. Saying, “Can you enter me the way he did?” or, “Try holding me that way” while in the midst of lovemaking can be valuable.

Experiencing pornography together can lead to better sex for many couples. Of course, a man wants to make sure his penis is in peak condition for the sex that results from this activity, so he needs to regularly apply a top-notch penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). Making sure the crème include L-arginine is another good idea. L-arginine is involved in the production of nitric oxide, which in turn is essential for keeping penile blood vessels open – an important factor in erectile health. Also key: selecting a crème with acetyl L-carnitine. The penis often becomes de-sensitized due to rough handling. Acetyl L-carnitine is neuroprotective and helps to maintain proper penis sensitivity so that the organ experiences all those pleasurable sensations.

5 Lies About Pornography That Will Destroy a Christian Wife’s Marriage

Award winning Gospel singer and songwriter, Kirk Franklin confessed to being addicted to pornography many years ago. It was a shock to both the Christian and secular communities because most people believe that Christians are immune to falling into sins which have such drastic consequences. For this reason, I’m sure many Christian women wonder if their husbands could become prey to the same monster that threatened to destroy Kirk Franklin’s marriage.

While it’s typical for Christian men to get lost in the deceptive world of pornography, Christian women often can become victims to this very same sin. You may ask: “How can a Christian woman go this far by getting caught up into pornography?” There are many reasons. She:

- Could have been exposed to pornography as a child by a family member or friend.
- Mistakenly stumbled over a magazine/Internet site as a child or in her youth
- Experimented as an adult before or after marriage
- Watches racy shows such as Desperate Wives, soap operas, or other shows and movies with very pornographic undertones.

Being exposed to all these things can weave a web of pain, deceit, and unfortunately a curiosity which causes a woman to crave more of what is forbidden. While many women believe they have good intentions when watching pornography, it can usher them to a secret world that is very difficult to escape from.
Furthermore, pornography is readily available on TV and on the computer; so one wrong click or change of the remote can change the course of your destiny for the worse.

The devil would love to use pornography as a method for destroying marriages and so many other things in a woman’s life because it’s very subtle and seductive at first. Pornography presents its way as an escape from reality, but the problem is that in most cases, once a woman takes that journey, it’s so hard to get back on track. It can grow into a stronghold, (a trap set up by the enemy to keep you in bondage), that constantly needs to be fed. To do this, the enemy provides the following lies. He says that pornography can:

1. “Stimulate and increase sexual desire and passion within your marriage.”
Many times I have found myself glancing at a magazine, as I’ve stood in the grocery checkout line, when I see a headline which says, “Find out How Porn Can Strengthen Your Relationship!” While watching porn might make you feel more erotic, it ultimately causes you to focus on the sexual activity rather than pleasing your husband.

2. “Cause you to desire your husband more.” When you watch porn, you don’t see your husband performing the sexual activity, but some other man with some other woman. Porn causes you to focus on the image of the men (or women) you saw in the video.

3. “Helps you to become more intimate with your husband.”
Intimacy involves sharing your heart, mind, body, and spirit with your husband. If anything, watching porn can destroy the intimacy you’ve built with your husband because you’re no longer sharing yourself exclusively with your husband. But now you’re sharing it with a fantasy that you’ve created based on what you’ve seen in the video or an image. In essence you’re committing mental adultery.

4. “You’re not hurting anyone.”
Yes you are! In addition to hurting yourself by pulling away from God and hindering your relationship with Him, you’re separating yourself from you husband. Why? Because you’re constantly focusing on the pornography, the images you’ve seen, and the sounds you’ve heard. In fact, it could cause you to make unfair comparisons between your husband and the unrealistic men you see. And what happens if your children catch you watching porn? What happens if they get exposed to it and become addicted?

5. “It’s not addictive.” This is probably the most deceptive lie the enemy tells people. While a woman may be able to watch soap operas, videos, and the Internet, a few times without running back to it, each time she views this type of perverted media, it chips away at her integrity. It also gives her a perverted perception of sex and other people. It also puts something in her heart that will eventually draw her back to the forbidden fruit of pornography. It can be just as addictive as crack or heroine.

For this reason, addiction to pornography requires a strong desire to seek deliverance. You must apply action through:

- Prayer for deliverance (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
- Fasting, when necessary (Matthew 17:21).
- Bible study/research (2 Timothy 2:15)
- Outside help such as Christian counseling, and/or a trusted female accountability partner who

cares about you and is rooted in Christ. (Proverbs 11:14)

While watching pornography can be very detrimental to a woman’s family, her fellowship with Christ, heart, and her marriage, deliverance is possible. In fact, Kirk Franklin, who was delivered from the destructive power of pornography, is now a witness that all things are possible through Christ. These “all things” don’t just include celebrities, but they also include you and any issues you may struggle with, including pornography!

Tiffany Godfrey, also known as the Committed Wife, is very passionate about helping to save Christian marriages by encouraging Christian women.

A Clever Way to Find Free Adult Chat Rooms!

Chatting over the internet is hugely popular. The problem is there are very few free adult chat rooms where we can discuss adult topics. Due to their popularity, website owners increasingly decide to charge for the service. In this article, you will learn how to easily find hundreds of these chat communities, many of which are entirely free.

It has become hard to find good places for adults to chat. Most of this is due to the spread of instant messengers, virtual worlds, and social networks. The few good chat sites available tend to be full or, worse still, full and intent on asking you to pay a membership fee. To most of us, it seems the days of good, fun, lively free places for adults to have an adult chat are gone. Thankfully, there is quite a clever way for us to still find good rooms.

All of the big dating communities offer their members free adult chat rooms. Now, I’m sure you are thinking, “Yes, and these dating sites also charge you a membership for these free rooms!” This is not always the case. Many such chat communities are free, others are free but have limited features for the non-paying members, and others still offer a totally free service for women.

The beauty of joining a large, well-known dating community is you get given access to a huge adult chatting community that has hundreds, sometimes thousands of people using it at any one time. Better yet, their rooms tend to offer users the ability to hook in their webcams. So you could be chatting away in a room and have the ability to click on a profile and watch them on their webcam, too!

Block Porn and Adult Content with Vista’s Parental Controls

Children can find just about anything on the Internet. However, do they really need to exposed to wealth of adult content on the net? If you are a parent the answers is probably no. One of the biggest concerns for many parents is how to block porn and adult content on the home computer. Before Vista introduced new ways to block porn and adult content. The ability to filter on line content was only moderately effective in Windows. However, Windows’ Vista operating system has introduced a successful version of parental control features. The new features allows the administrator or parent the ability of restrict areas, websites, usage time and block porn sites from popping up in your browser. This article will give you a quick and easy crash course on how to use the parental control features and effectively block porn.

A web filter is a software option that allows you to categorically choose what online content can be accessed on your computer. The software works by prohibiting access to sites with adult content such as specific keywords, images, files and IP addresses. The features also prohibits these sites from being loaded into your web browser via pop up or invite. Vista has a java script reader which can block porn spam and block porn ads from automatically being loaded while online. Recent features like this gives parents more control of their children are exposed to online.

How to Block Porn Websites with Vista’s Web Filter

1. Click the Windows button and the click the “Control Panel”.

2. Under “User accounts and Family Safety”, click the “Parental Controls”.

3. Choose account you would would like to restrict.

4. Select the option labeled “On” for “enforce current settings” under “Parental Controls”

5. Click Windows Vista Web Filter link.

6. Select the option “Block some websites and content”.

7. You can set up a list of “allowed” websites and use custom restrictions.

This options allows you to specifically choose which sites are accessed. You can also increase the global settings by blocking content categorically. You can do so by raising the web restrictions.

1. Load the Parental controls window by following step 1-3 above.

2. On the left hand side under the user account name, click the options next to “Web Restrictions”.

3. You can raise or lower the restriction settings.

4.Choose custom to select which categories you would like to block automatically.

Not only can Vista’s options block porn, they can help you to control your child’s surfing time and monitor activity. You can generate a report from the Parental Control screen by simply clicking the “view activity” link. This feature will give you a breakdown of the user’s net activity. It can be very difficult to set time limits on your children’s Internet usage. Vista makes this job a bit easier by offering the administrator the ability to set net time limits. After the set time period is up, the user will no longer be able to access the net.

1. After loading the Parental Control window, click “Time Limits”.

2. In the grid, click on any of the white “time squares” you wish to restrict.

3. Turn all the white “time squares” to blue in order to deactivate the Internet for those times.

Is Vista’s Parental Control a hundred percent effective tool to block porn and filter adult content? The answer is no. However, parents’ fears can be alleviated by using these features effectively to block porn and adult content, monitor usage, and set time limits. There are third party filters that also do this job more effectively. The new advanced features offered by other monitoring software are emergency email notification if the computer restrictions are broken, remote control of the home computer from anywhere, video playback of usage time, and key stroke recording. These are handy for outsmarting teenagers who are usually tech savvy or if you need to monitor your child’s email and chatting. But, for the younger kids, you may not need these options. If you want to read about advanced monitoring software options check out internet security page. Overall, configuring Vista’s parental controls to filter content and block porn is a breeze. The system allows you the ability to ensure that their net surfing time is safe and under your supervision.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

To discover new and effective ways to have a wonderful, romantic love life and to become a great lover, my book “Love and Sex” offers frank and wide-reaching information. You will find a truly in-depth look at what actually happens during sex and how to overcome sexual difficulties. By reading this book you can change your love life.

Join a Free Live Video Chat Room To Make Cool Friends

In the age of the Internet where everything is happening on the web, a free live video chat room helps you make some great friends. This is a platform where you can meet people from all over the world and know more about them. You can look, hear, chat with friends from across the globe from your web browser. There is no need for any download. You can get access to live chatting. The chat user can broadcast streaming audio and video.

What Are The Other Features?

You can request your friends to come and join you in a secret room. You can have an intimate cam chat or share your opinions or simply have some fun. There are adult free chat rooms and Adult Webcams rooms too. As soon as you open one of the chat rooms, you can meet a person on the other end waiting to be friends with you. You do not need to be afraid that you information will be leaked out. You can simply register by signing up with a username and password.

You can access the chat anonymously. There is no registration fee, no download, and no camera needed to see and hear people while chatting. In fact, you can start a chat instantly. You can meet some great people, control your chat room, get top quality audio and video, and send unlimited messages through free live video chat. This type of chat is a great opportunity for singles and lonely souls. Even if you are simply looking for a friend or finding a date, this is for you. Who knows you may find the person of your dreams here. Some sites even offer relationship advice.

The best part about these chat rooms is that they all are free. Be it adult chat rooms, dating rooms, or teen chat rooms, all are free. Webcam chat is free, simple, and fast. Simply go to the room you are interested in and start the chat. There are some chat rooms which you can only enter if you are 18 years and above. There are also a certain rules that these sites follow. There are certain free live video chat rooms where you can embed widgets in your profile too. You can add widgets from other websites and share them with friends. There are also sites which allow the registered members to watch and search YouTube videos in chat. You can even share these videos with your friends and see their instant reactions.

The cam-to-cam chat is like an instant social networking site which has many features to make your chat experience wonderful. Some sites also offer technical help to solve the problems you may face during a live chat. You could also contact these sites if you have any suggestions or comments to give. What is more, you could also make money apart from chatting at this cam show. There are webcam affiliate programs through which you can earn some extra dough while having fun.

So, if you want to make some great friends, want to audio, video, or text chat, try any free live video chat room. Stream videos and audios quickly and talk to people from all over the world through your web browser.

The Basic Science of Pornography Addiction

There are 5 main brain chemicals associated with pornography addiction and each has their own function within pornography addiction. They are Dopamine, Adrenaline, Serotonin, Prolactin and Oxytocin.

DOPAMINE

Dopamine is the main chemical pushing porn addiction; is a “neurotransmitter” (which simply means “a chemical in the body that carries a signal or impulse from one nerve cell to another”) and plays a huge role in all our lives whether we are addicts or not. Dopamine is, amongst many other things (such as being involved in everything from regulating movement to the control of attention) the chemical that gives us “expectation buzzes”. This buzz could be for the cake we fancy on the sweet trolley in a restaurant when we are still eating our main meal; the chase in sexual encounters; what can drive people to buy lottery tickets; the thrill we feel when we know we are going on our holidays soon or, in addiction, is (in part) the desire for the next fix of the wet, dry or behavioral drug we are addicted to. It is also the brain chemical behind the thrill when gossiping; the rush we feel when we hear a celebrity scandal or when we want to buy a tabloid to read what is on the front cover. Bottom line, dopamine is all about expectation and wanting (as opposed to necessarily liking) which is what can make it an incredibly destructive chemical when it comes to addiction. Dopamine is not about levels of pleasure per se. It’s about expectation and what, for instance, drives lust.

Dopamine loves novelty anything new and interesting… The newest car, game, sexual conquest, movie… A person could have a spike in dopamine just thinking of watching the next movie whilst still watching the current movie. Dopamine is behind the drive for more and more scenes when in a pornography binge and why a pornography addict will keep on clicking to see more and more images or videos as they get a surge of dopamine with anything novel and new. In response, the Pornography Industry has to keep upping the ante with its content to keep addict’s interest and money and why studios like Evil Angel – who specialize in the more extreme and taboo end of the market – are so profitable. Dopamine is also the chemical responsible for the motivating feeling behind the thought that you will be paid handsomely at the end of a rough pornography scene if you are a pornography performer…

We are all hooked on dopamine to a certain degree. Dopamine can give life some of its loveliest and memorable moments (low dopamine levels are also associated with depression)… but can also create hell for us when we become addicted to a wet, dry or behavioral drug.

Addicts have damaged the reward circuitry in their brains and will feel less of a hit with their drug fixes over time as it now becomes harder and harder to stimulate their reward systems and will therefore need more and more of the drug to get the same effect. Feeling less of a hit results in craving more of what will give the addict the same amount of “pleasure” as they had before it decreased… (remember dopamine is all about expectation and wanting – as opposed to necessarily liking – most addicts despise the lives they live when in active addiction yet still go back time and time again for more).

In addiction, new neural pathways are created in the addict’s brain which become, over time, about taking the path of least resistance. The rational side of the brain that understands about consequences subsequently becomes weaker over time too as the neural pathways that once ran the show are weakened as the addiction escalates and a tug of war will end up ensuing between the higher self and lower self. Levels of dopamine always decline over the course of an addict’s addiction career and the ante is always upped to get more as a result.

When you think that the definition of pornography is “Material whose primary purpose is to create sexual arousal” then it is easy to understand how the role of dopamine fits into that as dopamine is also released during genital orgasm as well as in the prelude to the orgasm. The more pornography a person does the more dopamine gets released which in turn reinforces the behavior and means the person not only desires it at some point in the future but requires it. The more porn a person does, the more they masturbate to orgasm and the more dopamine is released which further deepens the addictive cycle. It’s a feedback loop which becomes more and more difficult to escape from. The person then needs more extreme material to get sexually aroused which is when reality becomes the turn off and “boring”.

ADRENALINE

With dopamine in the driving seat of porn addiction, the need for more and more of it will take a person through some traumatising viewing material. With each new brutal or shocking image, the body releases the fight or flight hormone adrenaline to help the person cope with the trauma of what they have just witnessed on the screen.

You’ve heard of the term “adrenaline junkie”? Well that term applies just as much in porn addiction as it does for dangerous outdoor pursuits. Porn addicts – over time – also become addicted to adrenaline and will have to seek out ever more perverse, grotesque, violent, disturbing and illegal pornography to keep getting the same effect – just as adventurers have to do ever more dangerous acts to get their hits of adrenaline.

During this process the profoundly shocking pornography they are now forced to view by their addiction which many addicts would never have believed that they would have ever viewed once porn that assaults their souls can seem exciting pre-ejaculation/ orgasm. Once they have orgasmed though, addicts can now see what is on their screens and are often horrified and retraumatised by it.

And the whole sorry cycle just keeps getting worse and worse to the point that the only taboo pornography left to look in the end – which will give the adrenaline trauma hit addicts need – will be child pornography. When you have reward circuitry that is numb – which is what all active addicts have – the person will do anything to jack up the chemicals they need to feel less numb.

Whenever adrenaline is released in the body, whatever a person or animal is doing or looking at during those moments are burnt into the psyche. This is the reason why porn addicts can be haunted by porn images they have seen long after they stop viewing pornography. This is also the reason, on the positive side, why some beautiful sexual (or other) memories are remembered too. If the heart was beating faster at that time due to the release of adrenaline in the body, those memories too, will be burnt into the psyche.

OXYTOCIN

Oxytocin is the chemical that is released when a Mother and her new born baby are bonding after birth. Psychology Professor Ruth Feldman from Bar-Ilan University in Israel is at the forefront of oxytocin research. She has spent years studying oxytocin’s role in the mother-child bond as well as the role oxytocin plays in romantic bonds. Prof Feldman says “The increase in oxytocin during the period of falling in love was the highest that we ever found.” Prof Feldman concluded that “Romantic relationships can have a profound effect on adult’s health and well being whereas the inability to maintain intimate bonds has been associated with physical and emotional distress. Studies in monogamous mammals underscore the central role of oxytocin in pair bonding and human imaging studies implicate oxytocin in early romantic love… Oxytocin is known to promote trust, bonding and attachment between adults and between parents and their offspring… ”

Oxytocin is also known as the “cuddle hormone” or the “bonding chemical”. When two people are healthily bonding, masses of oxytocin is released and this is what will lay the foundations of a lifetime bond between the two people whether that person is a partner or a friend. It is necessary to keep doing the things which laid those foundations though for the bonds to endure as less oxytocin is released when there are problems in our relationships and it stops altogether when relationships end and this is part of the reason we feel so much agony within ourselves at the endings of those close relationships.

The trouble with pornography is that viewers become bonded – through oxytocin – with porn performers; particular photos or scenes and especially bonded with their porn stash as oxytocin is released during porn viewing. This is the reason porn addicts struggle to get rid of their stash once they make the decision to quit porn. Because of the oxytocin bond, it can feel like a death.

People can become bonded to anything that makes them feel good – from DJs on the radio to the local shop-keeper who makes them feel good by smiling at them. Where good feelings and pleasure are involved, bonding is always possible. And nowhere is that more ironically relevant than in pornography use.

SEROTONIN

Serotonin is often called “natural Prozac” and is released after sexual climax and what makes a person feel satisfied. This is the chemical responsible for men falling asleep after ejaculating and what many porn addicts use (without them realising that this is what they are doing) to help them fall asleep after a porn bender as it relaxes them. The hormone releases a person from stress for a while and why a calmness is felt after genital orgasm. Serotonin is also an inhibitor to dopamine which basically means it stops its release.

PROLACTIN

Prolactin is also an inhibitor to dopamine stopping its production in the body – and is released into the body post genital orgasm and what brings an end to traditional sexual intercourse. Prolactin is the chemical responsible for people who have just had sex desperately wanting to get away from each other.

If couples do not genitally orgasm, prolactin is not released.

Prolactin is also the chemical responsible for what is often called “post coital blues” which is the depression that comes for a few days post genital orgasm in both males and females. When in the “honeymoon mating frenzy” period of a relationship, we remain strongly bonded by high oxytocin levels and quickly overcome our “hormonal blues” (prolactin releases) by having more sex (therefore dopamine rushes).

Often in porn addiction – to counter that depression – porn addicts will begin another binging cycle to get the dopamine flowing in their bodies again and the whole cycle begins again. Depression at this point will come to be seen as a normal state and often not even recognised as even being depression especially if the addict starts taking anti-depressants.

The same is the case with couples in the early stages of their relationships. They will have frequent sex because of the novelty involved with the new relationship (the dopamine factor). If each sex session then has a genital orgasm, the whole dopamine-prolactin cycle will be going on there too and why as the relationship settles in, many people often start losing interest in sex with their partner as the novelty has worn off and begin to drift apart and/ or the two people start to look for someone else someone novel – so dopamine can start flowing in their bodies again because it is at this point that the lows of prolactin are now felt. That is prolactin in action and usually has nothing to do with how compatible the two people are with each other or their core relationship. This behavior is the same in humans, primates, mammals and reptiles because as Kruger et al explain, it originates in the primitive part of our brain.

I wonder just how many relationships dopamine and prolactin has broken up…

Prolactin is another reason men fall asleep after ejaculating as the higher the prolactin level, the sleepier a person gets.

How to Be Successful on Adult Dating Sites

Contrary to popular opinion, online dating is proving more and more successful with recent surveys. Many couples who began by emailing or chatting online go on to meet and continue dating in person. This success may be attributed to the fact that men are more emotionally dependent on their e-partners than normal and thus much more committed to the relationship. This is perhaps because the anonymity of online communication allows men to express themselves emotionally, unlike in real life where they have to show a tough exterior.

In order to succeed at Florida adult dating, there are various things you should do. Studies show that most relationships last about 7 months, with 18% lasting over a year. A great way to seal the relationship with your Florida free dating partner is by exchanging gifts online. The more you chat as opposed to emailing, the more you depend on each other emotionally and can get to know each other better. The more conversations you have via telephone the greater the connection. Initially your Florida adult dating partner may shy away from using webcams as they want to establish a connection first before meeting face to face.

Make use of forums which enable you to post topics and have discussions with other Florida free dating site members on topical issues, dating, sports, entertainment or even politics. At such virtual gatherings you are likely to find like minded people who share your ideals, values or even just your love of activities such as hiking. At forums, the discussions never end and are much more in-depth than the short ones in chat rooms. Here, you may get great advice, participate in lively debates and make new interesting friends that you may want to meet in person or even date.

Visit the chat rooms where you may chat with other members in real time. Chat room messages are brief and visible in real time to participants presently online. Different chat rooms may be included for specific purposes such as for marriage and some just for friendship. Private chat sessions may also be featured to allow for more personal intimate conversations.

One disadvantage of online dating is that dangerous people can use fake profiles as none of the usual screening or background checks usually done in brick and mortar dating agencies are conducted. To ensure your safety, always ask a lot of questions. Beware of people asking you for money and report such abusers to the site. And remember, if at first you don’t succeed, simply dust yourself off and try again.

How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Watch Adult Movies During Sex

If you just started a new relationship or have been married for twenty years, when it comes to talking with your lover about the desire to watch adult movies during sex, is never easy. However, in reality you’ll never know how they will answer unless you ask. Instead of hiding it like it’s a dirty little secret, the open communication can improve your sex life and improve other aspects of your relationship.

It’s normal to be worried about your lover’s reaction, use a third-party indirect question such as: “Bill told me over coffee that Linda and him watch channel X while making love. Have you ever imagined watching adult movies during sex? Apparently they really like it.”

The preframe for this conversation is that watching adult movies is a healthy medium. Bill and Linda improved their sex life through stimulating images and auditory enhancers of groans and dirty talk. By asking her if she likes it before you even suggest you’re into it, will loosen up the pressure on you and give you an answer without facing judgement.

If your lover says, “sure let’s check some out,” keep in mind while the movie is rolling to stare at her often. Tell her she is sexier than all the women. Repeat some of the dirty lines aloud as if she were one of porn stars. Guide your lover into the positions. Always stay in the moment instead of becoming fixated on the screen. Afterwards, ask her what else she wants to try. Watching adult movies with your lover is an excellent gateway to more kinky arts.

About Adult Intimate Dating and Online No Strings Attached Adult Dating

Gone are the days that one used to comb through bars and nightclubs in hopes of finding a quick no strings attached adult date. Granted, that method still exists (and still works). But online adult intimate dating has many advantages over the “old school” method.

One big advantage that adult personals have over other dating methods is that there is no second-guessing as far as intentions go. If someone is on an adult dating site, she/he is seeking sexual encounters of one form or another.

Another advantage is convenience. You can browse personal ads right from the comfort of your own home. Once a connection is made you can then go out and do all those things both of you have been emailing, instant messaging, chatting and fantasizing about.

And yet another advantage is variety. You see, there are all kinds of people online. And there are as many different types of interests as there are individuals. Some are seeking the good old one-night-stand. Others want to fulfill certain fantasies. Yet others have fetishes that they would not typically reveal. And yes, serious relationships have been to grow out of adult personals sites.

Some specialty adult dating sites include categories such as S&M (or BDSM), swingers, cross-dressers, fetish, lingerie, transsexuals, and more.

Still on advantages, you get to know the person(s) and their interests, to a reasonable degree, long before the actual meeting. You can even talk and see each other live on video if both of you have a webcam. This makes online adult dating much safer than other conventional dating methods.

How do you get started in online adult intimate dating? Well, the first thing is to find a reputable adult personals site. This is essential as there are many scam sites out there full of bogus profiles. The number of active singles on the site is also important – the more the better as this means more chances of meeting other like-minded people.

Most reputable adult dating sites offer a free trial period. Use this to test out the site.

Next, post an adult photo personal profile. It’s an adult ad, so be creative. Don’t be shy if you’ve gained a few pounds or don’t look as you did when you were twenty one. Online dating is so diverse that you can be pretty sure someone out there is looking for someone just like you.

While you’re at it, don’t throw caution to the wind. There are certain risks involved. One risk is health related issues. Another is that you’re still dealing with strangers. But with a bit commonsense and precautions you can have lots of fun and encounters.