5 Lies About Pornography That Will Destroy a Christian Wife’s Marriage

Award winning Gospel singer and songwriter, Kirk Franklin confessed to being addicted to pornography many years ago. It was a shock to both the Christian and secular communities because most people believe that Christians are immune to falling into sins which have such drastic consequences. For this reason, I’m sure many Christian women wonder if their husbands could become prey to the same monster that threatened to destroy Kirk Franklin’s marriage.

While it’s typical for Christian men to get lost in the deceptive world of pornography, Christian women often can become victims to this very same sin. You may ask: “How can a Christian woman go this far by getting caught up into pornography?” There are many reasons. She:

- Could have been exposed to pornography as a child by a family member or friend.
- Mistakenly stumbled over a magazine/Internet site as a child or in her youth
- Experimented as an adult before or after marriage
- Watches racy shows such as Desperate Wives, soap operas, or other shows and movies with very pornographic undertones.

Being exposed to all these things can weave a web of pain, deceit, and unfortunately a curiosity which causes a woman to crave more of what is forbidden. While many women believe they have good intentions when watching pornography, it can usher them to a secret world that is very difficult to escape from.
Furthermore, pornography is readily available on TV and on the computer; so one wrong click or change of the remote can change the course of your destiny for the worse.

The devil would love to use pornography as a method for destroying marriages and so many other things in a woman’s life because it’s very subtle and seductive at first. Pornography presents its way as an escape from reality, but the problem is that in most cases, once a woman takes that journey, it’s so hard to get back on track. It can grow into a stronghold, (a trap set up by the enemy to keep you in bondage), that constantly needs to be fed. To do this, the enemy provides the following lies. He says that pornography can:

1. “Stimulate and increase sexual desire and passion within your marriage.”
Many times I have found myself glancing at a magazine, as I’ve stood in the grocery checkout line, when I see a headline which says, “Find out How Porn Can Strengthen Your Relationship!” While watching porn might make you feel more erotic, it ultimately causes you to focus on the sexual activity rather than pleasing your husband.

2. “Cause you to desire your husband more.” When you watch porn, you don’t see your husband performing the sexual activity, but some other man with some other woman. Porn causes you to focus on the image of the men (or women) you saw in the video.

3. “Helps you to become more intimate with your husband.”
Intimacy involves sharing your heart, mind, body, and spirit with your husband. If anything, watching porn can destroy the intimacy you’ve built with your husband because you’re no longer sharing yourself exclusively with your husband. But now you’re sharing it with a fantasy that you’ve created based on what you’ve seen in the video or an image. In essence you’re committing mental adultery.

4. “You’re not hurting anyone.”
Yes you are! In addition to hurting yourself by pulling away from God and hindering your relationship with Him, you’re separating yourself from you husband. Why? Because you’re constantly focusing on the pornography, the images you’ve seen, and the sounds you’ve heard. In fact, it could cause you to make unfair comparisons between your husband and the unrealistic men you see. And what happens if your children catch you watching porn? What happens if they get exposed to it and become addicted?

5. “It’s not addictive.” This is probably the most deceptive lie the enemy tells people. While a woman may be able to watch soap operas, videos, and the Internet, a few times without running back to it, each time she views this type of perverted media, it chips away at her integrity. It also gives her a perverted perception of sex and other people. It also puts something in her heart that will eventually draw her back to the forbidden fruit of pornography. It can be just as addictive as crack or heroine.

For this reason, addiction to pornography requires a strong desire to seek deliverance. You must apply action through:

- Prayer for deliverance (1 Thessalonians 5:17).
- Fasting, when necessary (Matthew 17:21).
- Bible study/research (2 Timothy 2:15)
- Outside help such as Christian counseling, and/or a trusted female accountability partner who

cares about you and is rooted in Christ. (Proverbs 11:14)

While watching pornography can be very detrimental to a woman’s family, her fellowship with Christ, heart, and her marriage, deliverance is possible. In fact, Kirk Franklin, who was delivered from the destructive power of pornography, is now a witness that all things are possible through Christ. These “all things” don’t just include celebrities, but they also include you and any issues you may struggle with, including pornography!

Tiffany Godfrey, also known as the Committed Wife, is very passionate about helping to save Christian marriages by encouraging Christian women.

About Adult Intimate Dating and Online No Strings Attached Adult Dating

Gone are the days that one used to comb through bars and nightclubs in hopes of finding a quick no strings attached adult date. Granted, that method still exists (and still works). But online adult intimate dating has many advantages over the “old school” method.

One big advantage that adult personals have over other dating methods is that there is no second-guessing as far as intentions go. If someone is on an adult dating site, she/he is seeking sexual encounters of one form or another.

Another advantage is convenience. You can browse personal ads right from the comfort of your own home. Once a connection is made you can then go out and do all those things both of you have been emailing, instant messaging, chatting and fantasizing about.

And yet another advantage is variety. You see, there are all kinds of people online. And there are as many different types of interests as there are individuals. Some are seeking the good old one-night-stand. Others want to fulfill certain fantasies. Yet others have fetishes that they would not typically reveal. And yes, serious relationships have been to grow out of adult personals sites.

Some specialty adult dating sites include categories such as S&M (or BDSM), swingers, cross-dressers, fetish, lingerie, transsexuals, and more.

Still on advantages, you get to know the person(s) and their interests, to a reasonable degree, long before the actual meeting. You can even talk and see each other live on video if both of you have a webcam. This makes online adult dating much safer than other conventional dating methods.

How do you get started in online adult intimate dating? Well, the first thing is to find a reputable adult personals site. This is essential as there are many scam sites out there full of bogus profiles. The number of active singles on the site is also important – the more the better as this means more chances of meeting other like-minded people.

Most reputable adult dating sites offer a free trial period. Use this to test out the site.

Next, post an adult photo personal profile. It’s an adult ad, so be creative. Don’t be shy if you’ve gained a few pounds or don’t look as you did when you were twenty one. Online dating is so diverse that you can be pretty sure someone out there is looking for someone just like you.

While you’re at it, don’t throw caution to the wind. There are certain risks involved. One risk is health related issues. Another is that you’re still dealing with strangers. But with a bit commonsense and precautions you can have lots of fun and encounters.

General Information on Free Webcam Services

Since the times of Internet invention, user interfacing had undergone numerous changes. Today, the Internet is the biggest source of free information and entertainment. At the same time, it is a huge social networking, offering convenient solutions for free online communication. Modern people are fond of chatting, so it is not surprising that the number of social networking sites has significantly increased in recent years. There are many webcam websites providing streaming video conversation solutions. The invention of instant messaging (chatting) and webcams is a crucial breakthrough in the sphere of Internet and web-based technology.

The popularity of webcam services and chat rooms has grown by leaps and bounds. Today, online video chatting is the easiest and the most cost-effective way to get in touch with friends and family members scattered around the world. Many chat programs offer free services and downloadable webcam software. Though most programs are available for free, they may charge certain fee for providing webcam support.

The Internet is loaded with various webcam chat rooms. Generally, the quantity and quality of services you get depends on whether you use free or paid solutions. Thus, many free webcam chat rooms offer a limited amount of services. For example, they may limit the amount of webcams a user can access at a time, or may not offer a full-vide webcam support.

By surfing the Net, you will find lots of free chat programs providing free webcam software. When using such programs, it is necessary to remember that many of them are heavily dependent on advertising. This means, when using free webcam services you risk to infect your computer with spy-ware or ad-ware.

Chat rooms are widely used by adult entertainment websites. Such websites charge money for providing video chat featuring different models. Such services are quite expensive and will cost you about $1 per minute. Those who are fond of visiting such websites should have a high-speed Internet connection; otherwise a webcam chat will lose a great part of its content.

Free webcam chat programs can be used for business and individual purposes. Though a vast majority of people use chat rooms for personal purposes, online video chat programs are also widely used by big businesses for global conferencing. Multinational companies also benefit from using live chat programs, as they help save time and money on travel and hotel expenses.

Free webcam services allow people broadcast themselves with the help of webcam application and their own web cameras. These services help people communicate with other folks (whether group to group or one on one) through a web server

How to Tell Your Partner You Want to Watch Adult Movies During Sex

If you just started a new relationship or have been married for twenty years, when it comes to talking with your lover about the desire to watch adult movies during sex, is never easy. However, in reality you’ll never know how they will answer unless you ask. Instead of hiding it like it’s a dirty little secret, the open communication can improve your sex life and improve other aspects of your relationship.

It’s normal to be worried about your lover’s reaction, use a third-party indirect question such as: “Bill told me over coffee that Linda and him watch channel X while making love. Have you ever imagined watching adult movies during sex? Apparently they really like it.”

The preframe for this conversation is that watching adult movies is a healthy medium. Bill and Linda improved their sex life through stimulating images and auditory enhancers of groans and dirty talk. By asking her if she likes it before you even suggest you’re into it, will loosen up the pressure on you and give you an answer without facing judgement.

If your lover says, “sure let’s check some out,” keep in mind while the movie is rolling to stare at her often. Tell her she is sexier than all the women. Repeat some of the dirty lines aloud as if she were one of porn stars. Guide your lover into the positions. Always stay in the moment instead of becoming fixated on the screen. Afterwards, ask her what else she wants to try. Watching adult movies with your lover is an excellent gateway to more kinky arts.

Join a Free Live Video Chat Room To Make Cool Friends

In the age of the Internet where everything is happening on the web, a free live video chat room helps you make some great friends. This is a platform where you can meet people from all over the world and know more about them. You can look, hear, chat with friends from across the globe from your web browser. There is no need for any download. You can get access to live chatting. The chat user can broadcast streaming audio and video.

What Are The Other Features?

You can request your friends to come and join you in a secret room. You can have an intimate cam chat or share your opinions or simply have some fun. There are adult free chat rooms and Adult Webcams rooms too. As soon as you open one of the chat rooms, you can meet a person on the other end waiting to be friends with you. You do not need to be afraid that you information will be leaked out. You can simply register by signing up with a username and password.

You can access the chat anonymously. There is no registration fee, no download, and no camera needed to see and hear people while chatting. In fact, you can start a chat instantly. You can meet some great people, control your chat room, get top quality audio and video, and send unlimited messages through free live video chat. This type of chat is a great opportunity for singles and lonely souls. Even if you are simply looking for a friend or finding a date, this is for you. Who knows you may find the person of your dreams here. Some sites even offer relationship advice.

The best part about these chat rooms is that they all are free. Be it adult chat rooms, dating rooms, or teen chat rooms, all are free. Webcam chat is free, simple, and fast. Simply go to the room you are interested in and start the chat. There are some chat rooms which you can only enter if you are 18 years and above. There are also a certain rules that these sites follow. There are certain free live video chat rooms where you can embed widgets in your profile too. You can add widgets from other websites and share them with friends. There are also sites which allow the registered members to watch and search YouTube videos in chat. You can even share these videos with your friends and see their instant reactions.

The cam-to-cam chat is like an instant social networking site which has many features to make your chat experience wonderful. Some sites also offer technical help to solve the problems you may face during a live chat. You could also contact these sites if you have any suggestions or comments to give. What is more, you could also make money apart from chatting at this cam show. There are webcam affiliate programs through which you can earn some extra dough while having fun.

So, if you want to make some great friends, want to audio, video, or text chat, try any free live video chat room. Stream videos and audios quickly and talk to people from all over the world through your web browser.

Pornography As a Turn-On for Fun-Driven Adult Sex

Adventurous couples can buy a pornographic video and watch it together. That is generally a surefire way to end up in bed. In fact, it is usually when couples are in bed that they watch such films. And if the film is a good one they will enjoy being turned on as they watch it. Many couples find that the provocative content stimulates them to duplicate what is being viewed. They are impulsively driven to touch each other, kid around, mimic the sex acts, and swing from the imagined chandelier as they tickle each other’s fancy.

In many countries in the world, including most industrialized ones, pornography is not banned or hidden from view. For example, at King’s Cross district in Sydney, Australia a section of the city is designated to show and sell pornography Sex oriented videos, DVDs, books, sex toys, lubricants, assumed aphrodisiacs, are sold in kiosks and stores. Strip clubs, restaurants, massage parlors and other clubs are available to meet members of the opposite sex.

In Europe, in many countries, and cities pornography is not hidden and thus available for adults. In all the countries there are restrictions to the sale of pornography to children and prosecution of offenders is open and continuous.

In the US pornography is not banned from sale to adults although there is no tolerance on anyone abusing the Child Pornography laws.

But for the purpose of improving the sex life of adults pornography has a place for some. Do you have to be lonely or hard-up to use porn? The answer is No. Porn can be a substitute for sex for many lonely and sex starved adults, mainly men, and for adults without a partner who like visual stimulation for self-arousal.

Finally, let’s examine whether pornography can fit into the armamentarium of the average adult who wishes for increased stimulation for lovemaking. What can porno offer?
As with any movie there is added stimulation by watching real pictures compared to imaging such scenes. Some porno videos actually tell a reasonable story where there is more than just sexual exploitation. So some selection is necessary. Google is a good resource to discover what are considered the best sex videos made in the past few decades.

Beside adding visual stimulation couples can mimic what they see, learn about new positions, empathize with the excitement of the sex partners, imagine participating in the viewed sex, experience sex beyond their own interests, such as gay, bi, S and M, bondage, oral and anal sex, and the use of fetishes. Some show dancing, foreplay that could be stimulating and perhaps above all can act as a stimulus to open the viewers to become freer and lustier about sex.

If you attempt to try out the benefits of sex videos and it is new to you imagine becoming an adventurer and explorer so you don’t take a negative bias into your viewing. An open mind will allow you to gain what might be there for you. At the very worst it won’t have any effect on you and may even turn you off. If so, just chalk it up as another interesting experience.

To determine if pornography may be a stimulus for your personal sex life approach its use openly. It might be a new vehicle for greater enjoyment of sex for occasional use or even frequent use. Remember adults have no restrictions on what they mutually do and prefer behind closed doors. So enjoy the movies and enjoy the sex and know you have taken another step to gaining a new stimulus for sex and love.

by Marvin H. Berenson, M.D. July 12, 2011

To discover new and effective ways to have a wonderful, romantic love life and to become a great lover, my book “Love and Sex” offers frank and wide-reaching information. You will find a truly in-depth look at what actually happens during sex and how to overcome sexual difficulties. By reading this book you can change your love life.

Watching Porn Doesn’t Have To Be an Event for Just One

Let’s face it; men love their porn. It is the visual stimulation that turns them on and gets them in the mood. This doesn’t have to be an event that you do by yourself though. You can certainly include your partner so that you can spice up your sex life and perhaps take it to a new level. Porn movies do not have to be secretive, which if found by your partner can lead to arguments and mistrust. You should just bring it up to your partner to see if she may be interested in watching it with you. It will no longer be a “dirty secret” and you can both enjoy your fantasy life together.

When you first bring up the topic of watching porn together you should not just jump right into it. Make sure it is something that you can do together by buying a porn movie that is rather tame to start with. You do not want to start off with something hard core that will scare her off. Ask her what her fantasy might be and then try to find a movie that incorporates it, so that she is more interested in it.

You may also want to consider getting something special for that night. You may want to try a cream that turns women on more. This will not only turn her on, but will bring her to arousal quickly and with more intensity. There even is a product that will really enhance her sex drive. It is a daily supplement that makes a woman feel sexy and beautiful. With these products you are sure to have a better time together than ever before.

With adult entertainment such as porn movies, you can start to have a wonderful and adventurous sex life. Along with personal products that can really enhance your sex drive; you can explore a whole new way to make love that will bring the intimacy back into your relationship. You may become more daring and find that you really enjoy adding this particular aspect to your sex life. Many women love to watch porn but are afraid to try it for fear that their partner may look differently at them. Most likely this isn’t the case for men, but women may be afraid to bring up the topic themselves. If you bring it up, you may be pleasantly surprised at how eager she is to explore new parts of your relationship.

There are many other products that can help you feel good as well. There is one product in particular that will help you stay erect longer and give you a better orgasm and will also work to enhance the overall experience. Whether you want to try certain products or just experience the movie by itself, you will have a new outlook on your sex life, and your partner will be thrilled with how involved you are in making sure that together your sex life can reach completely new heights.

A Clever Way to Find Free Adult Chat Rooms!

Chatting over the internet is hugely popular. The problem is there are very few free adult chat rooms where we can discuss adult topics. Due to their popularity, website owners increasingly decide to charge for the service. In this article, you will learn how to easily find hundreds of these chat communities, many of which are entirely free.

It has become hard to find good places for adults to chat. Most of this is due to the spread of instant messengers, virtual worlds, and social networks. The few good chat sites available tend to be full or, worse still, full and intent on asking you to pay a membership fee. To most of us, it seems the days of good, fun, lively free places for adults to have an adult chat are gone. Thankfully, there is quite a clever way for us to still find good rooms.

All of the big dating communities offer their members free adult chat rooms. Now, I’m sure you are thinking, “Yes, and these dating sites also charge you a membership for these free rooms!” This is not always the case. Many such chat communities are free, others are free but have limited features for the non-paying members, and others still offer a totally free service for women.

The beauty of joining a large, well-known dating community is you get given access to a huge adult chatting community that has hundreds, sometimes thousands of people using it at any one time. Better yet, their rooms tend to offer users the ability to hook in their webcams. So you could be chatting away in a room and have the ability to click on a profile and watch them on their webcam, too!

Creating Winning Adult Online Sex Dating Profiles

Are you weighing your options regarding signing on with adult online sex dating sites? Perhaps you are but are wondering if this experience is really for you. Honestly, when you take time out to wonder if you are taking the right steps, you are doing yourself a great service.

Sites that revolve around adult online sex dating are not exactly “PG rated” in nature. As such, it can be understandable that you might have some apprehensions about signing on with such a site.

But, do not dismiss you intentions out of hand. Rather than do this, it might be better to just keep a few things in mind prior to signing on with such a dating site. Here are some of the things you should keep in mind:

Try to keep your identity a secret if you are worried about anyone finding out you signed on with an amorous site. This is pretty to do. Just do not provide any telling personal info or hints of personal info on your profile. You would also want to block out your facial image on any photos. If you do not worry about hiding your identity, you probably would not have to worry about this. Those that do should take the advice herein. It can make the entire experience less of a worry for you.

And speaking of photos, try to make yourself look upbeat and positive in the photos. Sure, a few alluring photos can be a positive. But, it also does not hurt to add a few upbeat and lighthearted photos to the mix as well. They can definitely enhance your chances of impressing someone perusing your profile.

Do not make your profile too adult oriented. Some may scoff at the notion that the profiles on adult online sex dating sites should not be explicit. Honestly, you can devise your profile in any manner you wish. However, it would be to your benefit that you crafted a profile that was not going to undermine the cause. An explicit profile may scare off those potentially interested in you. And yes, this can even happen on adult online sex dating sites.

Does the site offer audio or video capabilities? Placing a pre-recording message on the profile can be a big help. Again, as long as you are not worried about safeguarding your identity, such means of communicating with browsers can prove to be a huge help.

When in doubt, always ask for advice. Sometimes, the customer service department of the adult online sex dating service may be willing to provide a helpful critique of your profile. This could prove to be a huge help to those that may not be sure if their profile is a quality one.

Better Sex: Using Pornography to Enhance the Sexual Experience

Pornography gets a bad rap, and not without some justification. Yet despite problems with it, pornography in many different forms continues to be enjoyed by men (and women). Since frequent ejaculation is a component of penis health, the masturbatory aid can be seen as conducive to a healthy activity. But it’s not just for solo use; pornography is often used as a way to stimulate better sex for a couple.

It’s not always visual.

When people think of pornography, X-rated videos and pictures are what tend to come to mind. Yet pornography doesn’t have to be relegated strictly to the visual realm. Some couples may find that audio-based porn may be more up their alley.

For example, simply “talking dirty” may stimulate sexual interest in a new way. If a couple tends to use technical terms when referring to their organs or their actions, they may respond positively to getting “down and dirty” with their language during sex.

Role-playing is another option. A couple decides on a sex-based scenario and takes on the guise of characters in that scenario. For example, a man may play a policeman pulling over a woman for speeding. The woman explains the sexual favors she would do to get out of receiving a ticket, and the couple moves forward from there.

Or some couples may simply enjoy having sex while listening to (but not watching) an adult video. The sounds of other couples moaning and groaning may stimulate more than one’s audio senses.

But visual can be good.

Of course, “traditional” pornography is also a worthy option. Assuming that both partners are interested in exploring this together, it still helps to discuss a few things in advance:

- Comfort level. Are both partners equally interested, or is one “pushing” the other? There’s not necessarily anything wrong with asking about it, but partners need to be sensitive and realize that some people simply may not be receptive.

- Genre. A man may be intensely into a pornographic video in which one guy is serviced by a bevy of beautiful women. His mate may also be into this – but then again, she very well may not. It’s a good idea to determine in advance what areas of pornography a couple wants to explore; in general, it’s usually best to start with fairly “straightforward” porn.

- Share. Couples should establish that sharing their thoughts about the porn – whether during or after the viewing – is acceptable and can lead to better sex. For example, a woman may want to point out that the position a couple is using onscreen might be a lot of fun, or a man may want to say that the way the actress is stroking the actor’s penis is exactly the way he likes to be fondled. It’s also okay to continue this conversation when the couple has moved on to engaging in sex themselves. Saying, “Can you enter me the way he did?” or, “Try holding me that way” while in the midst of lovemaking can be valuable.

Experiencing pornography together can lead to better sex for many couples. Of course, a man wants to make sure his penis is in peak condition for the sex that results from this activity, so he needs to regularly apply a top-notch penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). Making sure the crème include L-arginine is another good idea. L-arginine is involved in the production of nitric oxide, which in turn is essential for keeping penile blood vessels open – an important factor in erectile health. Also key: selecting a crème with acetyl L-carnitine. The penis often becomes de-sensitized due to rough handling. Acetyl L-carnitine is neuroprotective and helps to maintain proper penis sensitivity so that the organ experiences all those pleasurable sensations.